Those of you who know me personally, know that I’m a very private person. And those of you who follow me, I’m telling you that you don’t know all of me. But I will say, that you know most of me-the more vulnerable parts of me-parts I thought I couldn’t share with anyone else other than my mom and closest friends. And despite this oxymoron, part of my power is in the fact that I still get to chose which parts I get to share with you. I get to share these vulnerable pieces of me when I’m the most comfortable. And that’s okay, and I’m here to let you know that that’s okay for you as well.
We live in an era where social media rules the world. We tweet every thought that pops into our head, we snap chat our friends every time we walk in and out of the door and we post and pose for Instagram because “we look cute!” And we should, but we also shouldn’t feel forced to share with the world when the world isn’t being as honest with us as we are with it. You've probably heard this more than once before but a lot of people still only post their greatest hits on social media. And that's okay, it's nice to see and look back on all your happiest moments but if you're someone like me who's a little more hesitant about sharing certain aspects of your life, listen to that quiet voice in the back of your mind. Maybe it's because you're not ready, maybe because deep down you know this is something you should keep to yourself. Even when you see your favorite celebrity finally tearing down their walls and coming clean, makeup free, doesn't mean that you suddenly have to as well. Social media has done a great job of connecting people all around the world and helping people be themselves, build up their confidence, but it's also an online world full of many different voices and not all of them are nice. Before you post something really personal online, understand the reasons behind why you're doing it. Is it for yourself? Do you need to get this thing off your chest and sharing it with the world will finally allow you to come clean with yourself? Or do you need to share this story with others to let them know they're not alone? Don't do it if you feel pressured; don't do it for the validation and don't do it before you're ready (if you ever are) because you'll only regret it in the end. I will say that things are changing. It’s all about The Real Real nowadays where people can come clean about their stories and really be inspired. But there are still too many filters going around and for the wrong reasons. Be yourself for yourself. Be vulnerable because you want to be but not because you feel like you have to. Being vulnerable in person sucks...but online? Who knows what can happen? Protect yourself-your hearts, your energy, your mind-don’t let others speak on your life that you don’t want to. People that you don’t know shouldn’t be able to critique and watch your every move and analyze every word without your comfortability. Allow your privacy to be your protection. Let it be your peace. But my gosh share with the world to your hearts content if it makes you SING! If it gives you that voice that you thought you had to hide. If it inspires you, if others inspire you. Because we don’t need validation from others but wanting someone to care, to show you that they do care even 5,000 miles away never hurts anyone. Sometimes it can even save a person’s life. So my advice to you is, take back your power. Own your dialogue and let your privacy be your peace and your audience be your cheerleaders when you need them to be. But take everything with a grain of salt because no one will be a bigger cheerleader than you. Until next time! Peace and love. Arianna
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