12/16/2018 0 Comments Would You Rather... Would you rather be invisible or be able to fly? It doesn’t matter if you’d rather live the rest of your days sneaking around without a trace, or be able to fly up to the Eiffel tower from New York for free, the purpose of the game is to choose between two options; and if you play by my rules, if you opt out, (aka if you choose none of the above or both), you’re cheating. Haha. Although, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that life is really a game of would you rather. Would you rather go to college up North in the cold or to the sun in Cali? Would you rather spend your last five dollars on that iced latte or save money for a slice after school? Would you rather stay in to study for your test on Monday, Friday night or go out with your friends? And at the end of this game that we play with ourselves every day with basic questions, it’s up to you to decide if these are the right decisions for you and if not, for you to live with the consequences or rewards. Based on these choices, no matter how small the decision, they all shape you into the person you’re going to become-because let’s be honest, we still haven’t finished growing and I don’t believe we ever will, no matter how old you are-and in the end if you’re happy with the results, you’ve won. But if not, you need to start making some new decisions and really start thinking about the outcomes. Now, when I say when you get to “the end”, I don’t necessarily mean when you’re eighty and on your death bed; it could mean after every new chapter of your life or after every birthday or new year. For me, I just turned seventeen in July and I’m graduating college in June. Now, I’m evaluating my life and my decisions. Has every decision I’ve made been beneficial to my future? Have I also been taking advantage of my youth (spending time with friends, my family)? And am I happy? That’s a huge question that I constantly like to think about as I move through life. Is everything I’m doing leading up to something I want in the future and if it’s something that’s not as imperative (meaning, if it’s hanging out or staying up late) am I having fun? Am I enjoying life because if not, then what am I doing it for? When you get to the end (whenever that may be for you) you realize that these decisions impact you in a huge way, so when you start making bad decisions then you realize that sometimes life isn’t all fun and games and the consequences may put you down a different path. So how do you deal with making hard choices? How do you know which decisions are right or wrong? And how do you live with the consequences, good or bad? Trust your gutMy mom always says, “Trust your gut feeling; it’s never wrong.” It’s your body’s way of telling you that this is right and if you feel it in your gut, then you know it’s right. But among that odd, heavy (or light) feeling in your gut or heart or wherever it is, it can be hard to distinguish whether or not that feeling is really certainty or just gas. (Haha). There also may be other feelings in there such as confusion and nervousness or fear but if you feel something, take a moment to think about why. Why do you feel this way? Is it the first time you’ve felt this way or what else could be stirring these other emotions? You’ll know in your heart if this is just fear or nervousness. Usually if you fear something it’s good, because that means you’re about to do something that’s going to change your life for the better. It helps to know and evaluate the cues of your body to help you stay in tune with life. And the more you tune into that gut feeling, the more you’ll know how to make those tough decisions without having to think too hard about it. So even when your brain Is going a mile a minute, your gut never lies. Ask a family member or friendHaving an outside opinion always helps. I don’t always recommend it but if you really need help making decisions or want some reassurance, ask a trusted friend or family member (or both). However, don’t ask too many people with too many opinions because you may get confused with your own values and beliefs and will more likely sway towards those other voices. Take advice with a grain of salt and see how they put things into perspective for you, but only use that as a reference when making your choices. Friends and family members can be very persuasive, so to have two people with two entirely different views helps, and I think that’s all you really need. I have a friend who’s a realist. She’s someone who always tells me the truth (even when I don’t want to hear it) and I have a friend who’s almost just like me. She’s always in my corner, hyping me up, but someone who also keeps me grounded when I need a reality check. I value both of their opinions deeply but if I really need advice I turn to my mom who asks me the same questions I’m asking you: What do you want to do? What do you think is right? Only you know you, and she’s right but it’s always nice to have a friend on call. Weigh the pros and consSo when your gut feeling just feels wrong, make a list. It sounds boring and old fashioned but it really does help. Weigh the pros and cons and decide how this will impact you negatively and positively in the future. If you’ve been trying to lose weight but you really want that cookie, do you eat the cookie and call it a cheat day or finish your diet with success and be proud of the results later? The list also helps because you know yourself and you know what you want. Asking a friend or a family member always helps, but you won’t feel the pressure of being judged if you make a wrong decision; and you won’t be influenced to choose something else based off of a friend’s opinion. So make a list, it makes things easier when you can look at your options in front of you anyway. If you make mistakes, learn from themSometimes you’re going to make bad decisions that lead you down a different path and you may get results you weren’t expecting or wanting. But maybe that’s not such a bad thing. Maybe this is the path you were supposed to be on, or maybe you were just led astray. Either way, see the positive in every situation. You may have bad days and even worse days and you are always entitled to those emotions of anger and disappointment and regret, but don’t dwell on them. The more that you wallow, the more you miss the blessings that could and will come your way, so make the best out of every situation. So life is one huge game of would you rather, and funnily enough you never know you’ve won until you get to the end. You can’t even look at the options beforehand and sometimes deciding may be a longer, trickier process or take less time than you thought you had; but we deal with it and we live with the outcome and we learn from our mistakes and move on. Or maybe you do win, and you have everything you’ve ever wanted in life but you’ve struggled along the way. Now you know how you got there so now you know how to stay there and only grow your success and happiness. So the moral of the story is to live your best life but make good decisions. We only get one shot at this so we have to make it count. So, to end this on a high note, here’s a game of would you rather that I found on Pinterest that I absolutely love. I’ll also put my answers down below just in case you’re curious and please, share your answers as well. I won’t judge and neither should you; I’d love to read them and see what you all chose. Until Next Time! With love, Arianna 1. Meet Grandparents (my Nana sounds amazing.) 2. Have more money. 3. Have Life Pause Button. (It would be nice to have a moment to breathe when life gets too busy.) 4. Know all world's languages. (I love languages, it would be nice to know them all to communicate with everyone.) 5. No one show up the wedding. (At least I'd have my husband.) 6. Stuck in an elevator. (Ski lift is in the cold, too high up AND in the wilderness? I think not.) 7. Go to a concert alone. (I can enjoy the music and dance and just live.) 8. Stop world hunger. (I thought of the kids.) 9. Go sky diving. (It's actually something I'm considering when I turn eighteen with my dad. I'm just scared the bungee cord will break once I jump. At least sky diving I can see if I'm going to plummet to my death.) 10. Be a kid my whole life. (Innocence is bliss.) 11. Go on vacation with friends. (Friendships are everything.) 12. (This one was hard. I almost broke my own rule and said both but I'll have to go with...) Side of salad. Wendy's makes the best. 13. Get a brand new house. Quote: "The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them.”
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